How To save Your Marriage From Divorce And Heart-Break
Welcome to my page. Today, I'll be highlighting on the need to avoid divorce in your marriage and ways to saving it from wrecking.
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If you are struggling to save your marriage from divorce, then you will want to special attention to the advice we have in this article. Specifically we'll discuss how to diagnose the specific problems in the marriage, then how to take action together to solve the problems and finally, to learn to be patient with the process. After you have an understanding of all of these points, you should be able to make real progress to get your marriage back on track.
The first thing you will need to do is understand when working on saving a marriage is the underlying problem that is causing your troubles. It's easy to blame the other person at this point but the reality is that you are at least half responsible for the issues you are facing.
The key at this point is to be honest with yourself and your spouse. Is the issue a matter of trust, such as an affair, or are you having financial troubles or are you just not in love anymore? No matter what it is, be truthful and direct no matter how much pain is involved. If you don't feel you can do this directly, consider getting a counselor to help.
Once you have both communicated your feelings, then the next step will be deciding on a course of action together.
For example, if the main issue in your marriage is financial problems, then you will both need to agree to get on a budget and manage spending together. Since the main issue is that either one or both of you spends more than they make, by working together as a team you can rebuild a bond that will rekindle feelings of trust and affection. These are important building blocks to saving your marriage from divorce.
After you have identified the problem and decided on a course of action together, the last step in saving a marriage will be to have patience with the process. It is likely that your problems did not arise overnight and so they will take time to work themselves out. Along the way, there will surely be times that you will second guess the decision to stay together but the key is to persevere. You should only consider splitting up after you have both given the plan an honest effort and time to work.
Saving your marriage from divorce can be a very difficult and challenging process. However, if you can take the time to identify the problems, agree on a course of action and stay patient with the process you have a very good chance to regain the happiness you once had.
I wish you the best of luck in your journey.
Top 10 Dating Tips
Top 10 Dating Tips
1. Get prepared for dating. If you really want to succeed in the dating game, be ready to commit to dating. Half-heartedness won't work. In fact, it won’t even get you half-way. If you really want to date, put some effort into it. Do some research and think about what you want out of dating. Prepare yourself for the inevitable rejection we all face at some point in dating and commit not to give up.
2. Get your act together. Begin a regime of looking your best. Join a gym, read health magazines, get fit and start a diet. Get your hair cut or styled and begin a new regime of good grooming or beauty treatment. Though it will not find you a date in itself, you will feel a million times more confident about yourself, and others can sense that.
3. Go shopping and treat yourself to new clothes and even a whole new look. Get your image right, one that you can manage and live with, but one that flatters you. Don't try to be someone you’re not, but amplify and accentuate your positives. Throw out those tired jeans, old sweaters or cardigans and spruce yourself up. Your date will appreciate that you demonstrated some effort.
4. Think about what you want to gain from dating and what timeframes you expect. Do you see yourself married within 2 years? If you do, then approach dating accordingly. If you are more laid back and don't take dating too seriously then ask yourself some honest questions about why you are dating and what you hope to achieve. If it is purely sex then ask yourself if you are about to be honest with those you hope to date.
5. Surround yourself with people who will support your dating aims. By following the first four tips you will feel better and be more focused. Don’t sabotage this by sitting around with friends who are negative about love and relationships (often the married ones). Start attending social functions frequented by singles. Sitting alongside couples at dinner parties in suburbia is not necessarily where you need to be right now.
6. Choose those you have a good chance of dating. Be realistic. In other words, your dating is based on the whole package you present as well as just your personality. If you are looking for a glamour girl or boy and want to date someone trendy and gorgeous, great! Just know that others will expect you to be the same.
7. Join clubs, societies, sports events, drama groups -- anything that might help you meet like-minded potential partners. You will not meet people by staying indoors and playing video games – many have tried and failed at this approach.
8. Take time off from dating occasionally if it’s not going well or causing dating fatigue. Recharging your batteries and keeping confidence and optimism levels high is an absolute must. We all hit rough patches, but don’t let your search for love become a death march. Date in phases if necessary.
9. Enjoy dating for what it is, dating. It is meeting people and socializing and spending time in the company of stimulating individuals who may or may not play a bigger part in your life down the road. The fact is, most people have something interesting to offer. While you may not be out on the dating scene looking for new friends, you may well find one or two fabulous people along the way.
10. Never make yourself too available. People like mystery and enigma and the thrill of the chase when dating. As part of keeping up the mystery, do not sleep with your dates early on. The longer a person is made to chase and fall for you within reason, the more likely that love may blossom. (And yes, this goes for both men AND women!) If the chemistry peaks too early, your emotions may never have time to catch up and the relationship will eventually wither away.
1. Get prepared for dating. If you really want to succeed in the dating game, be ready to commit to dating. Half-heartedness won't work. In fact, it won’t even get you half-way. If you really want to date, put some effort into it. Do some research and think about what you want out of dating. Prepare yourself for the inevitable rejection we all face at some point in dating and commit not to give up.
2. Get your act together. Begin a regime of looking your best. Join a gym, read health magazines, get fit and start a diet. Get your hair cut or styled and begin a new regime of good grooming or beauty treatment. Though it will not find you a date in itself, you will feel a million times more confident about yourself, and others can sense that.
3. Go shopping and treat yourself to new clothes and even a whole new look. Get your image right, one that you can manage and live with, but one that flatters you. Don't try to be someone you’re not, but amplify and accentuate your positives. Throw out those tired jeans, old sweaters or cardigans and spruce yourself up. Your date will appreciate that you demonstrated some effort.
4. Think about what you want to gain from dating and what timeframes you expect. Do you see yourself married within 2 years? If you do, then approach dating accordingly. If you are more laid back and don't take dating too seriously then ask yourself some honest questions about why you are dating and what you hope to achieve. If it is purely sex then ask yourself if you are about to be honest with those you hope to date.
5. Surround yourself with people who will support your dating aims. By following the first four tips you will feel better and be more focused. Don’t sabotage this by sitting around with friends who are negative about love and relationships (often the married ones). Start attending social functions frequented by singles. Sitting alongside couples at dinner parties in suburbia is not necessarily where you need to be right now.
6. Choose those you have a good chance of dating. Be realistic. In other words, your dating is based on the whole package you present as well as just your personality. If you are looking for a glamour girl or boy and want to date someone trendy and gorgeous, great! Just know that others will expect you to be the same.
7. Join clubs, societies, sports events, drama groups -- anything that might help you meet like-minded potential partners. You will not meet people by staying indoors and playing video games – many have tried and failed at this approach.
8. Take time off from dating occasionally if it’s not going well or causing dating fatigue. Recharging your batteries and keeping confidence and optimism levels high is an absolute must. We all hit rough patches, but don’t let your search for love become a death march. Date in phases if necessary.
9. Enjoy dating for what it is, dating. It is meeting people and socializing and spending time in the company of stimulating individuals who may or may not play a bigger part in your life down the road. The fact is, most people have something interesting to offer. While you may not be out on the dating scene looking for new friends, you may well find one or two fabulous people along the way.
10. Never make yourself too available. People like mystery and enigma and the thrill of the chase when dating. As part of keeping up the mystery, do not sleep with your dates early on. The longer a person is made to chase and fall for you within reason, the more likely that love may blossom. (And yes, this goes for both men AND women!) If the chemistry peaks too early, your emotions may never have time to catch up and the relationship will eventually wither away.
How to Stop Arguing With Your Girlfriend/Boyfriend
Step 1
The first and most important step is this: DO NOT ARGUE ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP IN FRONT OF OTHER PEOPLE. This can cause more harm to your relationship, reputation, and children than if you kept your conversation private. Other people may not know the extent of your relationship or the circumstances and may take things the wrong way. So many things can go wrong when others enter the equation so make sure that you and your partner are alone when you feel an argument coming on.
Step 2
Gain control of the conversation. During heated moments, it's easy for voices to flair up which leads to two people yelling at each other and neither one getting their point across. As soon as you recognize this type of tension building in the conversation, you need to stop and regain control.
An easy way to do this is by saying things like:
"I don't want this to turn into a huge argument. You start by telling me your problems and I won't interrupt you. Then let me speak and let me finish without interruption"
By doing this, you have inserted reason into the equation and a logical conversation can ensue.
Step 3Recognize an end goal. There's no point in arguing when you don't even know what you're arguing about! Unfortunately, half of arguments between couples are in this situation. Your job is to approach your differences as team looking to accomplish a goal.
Once the conversation is in control, say something like:
"Obviously we're not seeing eye-to-eye. Let's just figure out a solution that works for both of us without this conversation getting out of hand."
Step 4Be willing to apologize! Even if you know you're right, sometimes it's best to sacrifice your pride for the benefit of maintaining the relationship. Particularly in an argument, if blame is being thrown back and forth then it's up to one of you to accept the fault and move on. I'm not suggesting this is easy but it's the best thing to do. By apologizing and accepting the blame (rather right or wrong), you immediately lower the defense of your partner and communication can progress.
Step 5If all else fails, step away from the situation take some time to think clearly. You can say the worst things and make the worst decisions of your life when your emotions are running high. If you are not able to gain control of the conversation, then inform your partner that you would like to walk away and continue the discussion after you gather your thoughts.
Be sure to communicate that you would like to continue the conversation at a later time but you just need time to think. You don't want to end up saying anything you regret so walk away before it's too late!
Step 6As you can see, it takes a bit of maturity to control a difficult conversations but if you want your relationship to work, you have to be willing to calmly resolve your issues and make the best decisions. Good luck and God bless!
The first and most important step is this: DO NOT ARGUE ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP IN FRONT OF OTHER PEOPLE. This can cause more harm to your relationship, reputation, and children than if you kept your conversation private. Other people may not know the extent of your relationship or the circumstances and may take things the wrong way. So many things can go wrong when others enter the equation so make sure that you and your partner are alone when you feel an argument coming on.
Step 2
Gain control of the conversation. During heated moments, it's easy for voices to flair up which leads to two people yelling at each other and neither one getting their point across. As soon as you recognize this type of tension building in the conversation, you need to stop and regain control.
An easy way to do this is by saying things like:
"I don't want this to turn into a huge argument. You start by telling me your problems and I won't interrupt you. Then let me speak and let me finish without interruption"
By doing this, you have inserted reason into the equation and a logical conversation can ensue.
Step 3Recognize an end goal. There's no point in arguing when you don't even know what you're arguing about! Unfortunately, half of arguments between couples are in this situation. Your job is to approach your differences as team looking to accomplish a goal.
Once the conversation is in control, say something like:
"Obviously we're not seeing eye-to-eye. Let's just figure out a solution that works for both of us without this conversation getting out of hand."
Step 4Be willing to apologize! Even if you know you're right, sometimes it's best to sacrifice your pride for the benefit of maintaining the relationship. Particularly in an argument, if blame is being thrown back and forth then it's up to one of you to accept the fault and move on. I'm not suggesting this is easy but it's the best thing to do. By apologizing and accepting the blame (rather right or wrong), you immediately lower the defense of your partner and communication can progress.
Step 5If all else fails, step away from the situation take some time to think clearly. You can say the worst things and make the worst decisions of your life when your emotions are running high. If you are not able to gain control of the conversation, then inform your partner that you would like to walk away and continue the discussion after you gather your thoughts.
Be sure to communicate that you would like to continue the conversation at a later time but you just need time to think. You don't want to end up saying anything you regret so walk away before it's too late!
Step 6As you can see, it takes a bit of maturity to control a difficult conversations but if you want your relationship to work, you have to be willing to calmly resolve your issues and make the best decisions. Good luck and God bless!
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