For all those who consider marriage means just living together, are surely heading towards frustration and separation. A common sense approach with a fair amount of understanding will go a long way in making that Bond which says a happy marriage.
The generation of this age expects to be accepted as they are and fulfill all their desires; these create unrealistic expectations, which if not complied will end up frustrating the couple. Expecting too much from your partner is asking for too much. It should be understood that two people from same or different backgrounds with different personalities come together to create a stable loving and emotional union.
Rather than looking for someone who will accept them as they are, be happy with their abilities also ensure that the sexual and emotional needs are fulfilled. This means that the woman should be beautiful, brainy submissive and attentive and equivalent to man. A man should be good-looking handsome, a body builder with excellent mannerisms and always obliging.
Show Respect for Your Spouse: Assuming your spouse knows what you want to talk about is a no brainer, listen and be reflective not reactive. Give importance to your spouse's thoughts inputs and deliberate.
Always maintain eye contact. Look into the eyes and speak, it gives trust; it also means that you are speaking the truth and also mean what you speak. Let the other person also talk; let it be a dialogue and not a monologue.
Make it a point to let your partner know what is hurting or making you react in anger, making you sad about it. Pretending that everything will work out is not going to ease the situation or worry it may end up between the couple fighting unnecessarily. More fighting and less understanding will lead to failure of marriage. Opening up and confiding shows you care about your partner and your marriage.
Our forefathers and the generation of our parent's compatibility was not something which was discussed or talked about, and the ideal soul mate was far from the minds of those people. They trusted astrology and with the knowledge gained they made their lives easy and celebrated golden jubilees of their marriages.
Through the study of your birth charts before or after marriage, one can understand the challenges the relationship is going to face in future, the level of compatibility between the couple and ways to improve it, the positive and negatives of the individuals. Armed with this knowledge the couple can lead a happy and successful married life.
5 Tips to Deal With Marital Problems
Marriage is not a problem-free relationship. Couples will experience marital problems more than once in their married life and if couples do not know how to deal with marital problems, the relationship will suffer and they will eventually find themselves unhappy with their marriage. While it is normal for couples to experience marital issues and problems, it is important to know how to handle relationship issues to avoid bigger fights and conflicts. The following tips can be very helpful to handle marital problems.
Keep your cool. If you will get carried away with your emotions, you will lose your temper and your sense of reason. Although it can be really hard to keep your sanity and remain cool when your spouse is pushing you to your limits and provoking you to engage in a fight, try your best to gather all your sanity to keep your cool if you want things not to get worse. Talk about the issues in your marriage in a peaceful way. If your spouse do not want to talk about the issue right now, give him or her time. Your spouse might need some time to cool down but set an appointment to talk to each other within 24 hours.
Fight fair. Fighting in a marriage is not always a bad thing. If done correctly and fairly, it can strengthen the marriage. Fighting fair means knowing the current issue in your marriage, stick to it and do not bring up past issues. Do not let small things build up until you explode because it is not fair. If something is bothering you or you feel something is not right, make it appoint to talk about it with your spouse within 24 hours. It is not fighting fair to involve other people like your in-laws and friends so keep the fight just between the two of you. No name calling, yelling, threatening or hitting below the belt. Do not blame or accuse your spouse. Remember that you are not fighting with an enemy but with your spouse. Always keep in mind that you are fighting not to win but you are fighting for your relationship. It is not the absence of conflicts that makes the relationship strong but the way you deal with marital problems.
Willingness to compromise. It can be hard to deal with marital problems if couples are not open-minded and willing to compromise. Couples do not see each other eye-to-eye all the time. So when couples are not seeing each other eye-to-eye, good communication is necessary to be able to find the middle ground and compromise. Relationship should be give and take and it is easier to deal with marital problems if couples are willing to compromise.
Seek professional help. Research shows that many couples suffer years of marital problems before seeking professional help. Years of marital issues could make the relationship worse and could make marriage problems too big to be resolved. Do not wait until your marriage problems become serious and beyond repair before seeking help. There are couples who are in denial and do not want to admit that there are problems in the relationship. If you think your marriage is in trouble now, it probably is so seek help if you and your spouse find it hard to resolve issues in your marriage on your own. One best way to deal with marital problems is to acknowledge that there are problems in your marriage and seek help.
Willingness to forgive. It is important that couples know how to forgive each other. Couples must be willing to let go of the pain, disappointment and resentment to build a better relationship with each other. Stop dwelling on the pain that your spouse caused you and start to rekindle your relationship through the act of forgiveness. If you want to properly deal with marital problems, forgiveness is inevitable.
