How to Develop a Good Relationship with Your Boss
How to Develop a Good Relationship with Your Boss
A good relationship with your boss can make all the difference to how you feel about your job. A supportive, approachable boss is able to get the best out of their team – you feel like you can talk to them about a problem you have, ask for a morning off to go to a school play or that they will listen to your reasons for wanting a pay rise at your annual review.
Let’s look at some different ways to build a good relationship with your boss and how to maintain it – without looking like teachers’ pet.
1 Work Hard
– OK, this may seem like a simple one but it is very rare that the worst performer in a team gets on well with the boss, or certainly not for long.
2 Arrive on Time
– again, this is pretty obvious, but don’t forget that however well you perform in your job, if you are late all the time, or even some of the time, you wont be taken seriously.
3 Have Good Ideas
– in meetings, whether it be about the Christmas party or a new marketing strategy, make sure you have something to say. Meetings are not just a break from your desk and a chance to have free sandwiches.
4 Don’t Gossip
– if your boss considers you to be one of the team that spends more time hanging around the water cooler than actually working, they are unlikely to be your biggest fan.
5 Be Prepared
– if you attend a client visit or presentation with your boss, make sure you have your laptop loaded with a copy of the presentation, have back ups printed and have the client’s phone number in your mobile in case of hold ups.
6 Dress Like You Mean Business
– this does not mean wear a full-on power suit if you work in a primary school, but at least dress suitably to your role. It is too easy to get complacent and not iron your top or letting your suit jacket get a bit too ‘eau de pub’.
7 Take an Interest
– this goes for personal and professional details You don’t want to look like a creep by bringing your boss flowers for their birthday, but at least ask about their children, holiday or dinner parties if they tell you about them. When there is a project meeting, ask how it went.
A good relationship with your boss can make all the difference to how you feel about your job. A supportive, approachable boss is able to get the best out of their team – you feel like you can talk to them about a problem you have, ask for a morning off to go to a school play or that they will listen to your reasons for wanting a pay rise at your annual review.
Let’s look at some different ways to build a good relationship with your boss and how to maintain it – without looking like teachers’ pet.
1 Work Hard
– OK, this may seem like a simple one but it is very rare that the worst performer in a team gets on well with the boss, or certainly not for long.
2 Arrive on Time
– again, this is pretty obvious, but don’t forget that however well you perform in your job, if you are late all the time, or even some of the time, you wont be taken seriously.
3 Have Good Ideas
– in meetings, whether it be about the Christmas party or a new marketing strategy, make sure you have something to say. Meetings are not just a break from your desk and a chance to have free sandwiches.
4 Don’t Gossip
– if your boss considers you to be one of the team that spends more time hanging around the water cooler than actually working, they are unlikely to be your biggest fan.
5 Be Prepared
– if you attend a client visit or presentation with your boss, make sure you have your laptop loaded with a copy of the presentation, have back ups printed and have the client’s phone number in your mobile in case of hold ups.
6 Dress Like You Mean Business
– this does not mean wear a full-on power suit if you work in a primary school, but at least dress suitably to your role. It is too easy to get complacent and not iron your top or letting your suit jacket get a bit too ‘eau de pub’.
7 Take an Interest
– this goes for personal and professional details You don’t want to look like a creep by bringing your boss flowers for their birthday, but at least ask about their children, holiday or dinner parties if they tell you about them. When there is a project meeting, ask how it went.
Below are tips to endear you to your customers and friends to ensure their loyalty.
Below are tips to endear you to your customers and friends to ensure their loyalty.
1. Send Thank You Notes.
You would be surprised at how effective a simple thank you note can have in a relationship the impact it can make. It only takes a few moments and a few cents to write a short Thank You note, but what an everlasting impression your thoughtfulness can make by showing your customers, clients, and friends that they mean so much to you, that you want to take the time to acknowledge them! By nature we all like to be appreciated for what we do. When we tell someone that we appreciate the kind, efficient, or honest things they have done, we can effectively reinforce that behavior while making them feel great about who they are and how they act. (This can really be a great reinforcement of a behavior you like seeing in your kids!)
2.Make Thank You Calls
These should not take the place of the written "Thank You" but isn't it nice to receive a phone call unexpectedly, out of the blue from someone saying, "Thank You" for something? Any "Thank You" is appreciated but it's even more powerful to thank others unexpectedly.
3 Send samples.
This would apply mostly to businesses I guess, but if you can, try to send a sample of one of your products as a gift. Again, this is something so unexpected that it would be perceived as a pleasant, thoughtful surprise of great value. If you don't have a sample, you could just include something you think they would enjoy with a note saying, "thought you might enjoy this." That is something you could do for anyone and it would be considered a very thoughtful gesture because it is. It takes a little effort, but the rewards are great and lasting.
4 Send Birthday Cards
Who doesn't like to be remembered on their birthday? How about doing something really easy and send a birthday card to your friends and customers. Of course you'd have to find out when your customer's birthday is but if you've had a lengthy relationship with them, you should try to find that out. You could even go the extra mile and send a little gift with it. It wouldn't have to be much, maybe a "special offer" coupon or maybe free tickets to an event. Just a thought. Say something like, "I wanted to be one of the first to wish you a happy birthday and to offer you this special gift (or discount) for this special occasion.
5 Send Holiday Cards
Are your customers and friends worth a couple of bucks to you? That is about all it would cost (along with couple minutes of your time) to personalized a classy holiday card with a sentiment of appreciation, address it and toss it in the mail. You would be amazed at the impact that can make! If you really want to stand out from the crowd of all the other cards that might be coming in to that person, or business, send a Thanksgiving card and send it even a little early. That way you will be way ahead of the pack and they will have more time to soak in your message. Thanksgiving is a time of expressing thanks for friendships, associations, etc. Also, you don't have to worry about any cultural differences. Anyone would appreciate a Thanksgiving card. It would definitely be a memorable experience.
1. Send Thank You Notes.
You would be surprised at how effective a simple thank you note can have in a relationship the impact it can make. It only takes a few moments and a few cents to write a short Thank You note, but what an everlasting impression your thoughtfulness can make by showing your customers, clients, and friends that they mean so much to you, that you want to take the time to acknowledge them! By nature we all like to be appreciated for what we do. When we tell someone that we appreciate the kind, efficient, or honest things they have done, we can effectively reinforce that behavior while making them feel great about who they are and how they act. (This can really be a great reinforcement of a behavior you like seeing in your kids!)
2.Make Thank You Calls
These should not take the place of the written "Thank You" but isn't it nice to receive a phone call unexpectedly, out of the blue from someone saying, "Thank You" for something? Any "Thank You" is appreciated but it's even more powerful to thank others unexpectedly.
3 Send samples.
This would apply mostly to businesses I guess, but if you can, try to send a sample of one of your products as a gift. Again, this is something so unexpected that it would be perceived as a pleasant, thoughtful surprise of great value. If you don't have a sample, you could just include something you think they would enjoy with a note saying, "thought you might enjoy this." That is something you could do for anyone and it would be considered a very thoughtful gesture because it is. It takes a little effort, but the rewards are great and lasting.
4 Send Birthday Cards
Who doesn't like to be remembered on their birthday? How about doing something really easy and send a birthday card to your friends and customers. Of course you'd have to find out when your customer's birthday is but if you've had a lengthy relationship with them, you should try to find that out. You could even go the extra mile and send a little gift with it. It wouldn't have to be much, maybe a "special offer" coupon or maybe free tickets to an event. Just a thought. Say something like, "I wanted to be one of the first to wish you a happy birthday and to offer you this special gift (or discount) for this special occasion.
5 Send Holiday Cards
Are your customers and friends worth a couple of bucks to you? That is about all it would cost (along with couple minutes of your time) to personalized a classy holiday card with a sentiment of appreciation, address it and toss it in the mail. You would be amazed at the impact that can make! If you really want to stand out from the crowd of all the other cards that might be coming in to that person, or business, send a Thanksgiving card and send it even a little early. That way you will be way ahead of the pack and they will have more time to soak in your message. Thanksgiving is a time of expressing thanks for friendships, associations, etc. Also, you don't have to worry about any cultural differences. Anyone would appreciate a Thanksgiving card. It would definitely be a memorable experience.
Managing your customer relationships
Managing your customer relationships
customersAs a small business owner, you know that if you don’t provide superb service to your customer, you cannot grow your business. Your customers are your lifeblood: without them, you wouldn’t be here so you must nurture and care for each and every one of them. Right?
Yes. And no. On the yes side, there is no question that businesses today live or die by customer service. E-commerce has served to underscore the value of above-and-beyond service, with companies like Amazon setting such exceptional standards that it’s difficult for customers who’ve shopped there to accept anything less from other businesses.
On the no side of the scale, great customer service alone is not sufficient to retain customers and build business: to achieve these, service needs to be entwined with a commitment to customer relationship management (CRM).
One of the first and most difficult things you must accept when you embrace CRM is that all customers are not created equal, and therefore cannot be given the same level of attention. You must identify your most valuable customers, then assign your resources to servicing them and building strong relationships with them. This does not mean that you ignore, or dump, lower-value customers: it simply means that you channel finite resources into areas that provide maximum long-term return.
So What Is CRM?
Robert Wayland says in his book Customer Connections: “Customer relationships are assets that should be evaluated and managed as rigorously as any financial assets.”
CRM is simply a way of selling products or services by building individual relationships with each customer and each prospect, on a foundation of mutual trust, emotional support, privacy protection and tolerance for other relationships.
Relationship management is not flogging off product-line extensions, over-surveying customers, buying new customers with fabulous deals, discounts and lead-ins, irritating them with an endless stream of junk mail or telemarketing calls. CRM shifts the company focus away from being purely product-centred. “Get the order at any cost” morphs into “How can I help my customer?”
Through CRM, you encourage customers to continue purchasing from you in the future - without the old-fashioned ‘hard sell’. Perhaps even more importantly, you transform them into referral-generating advocates for your business. This is where the trust factor comes in. What’s the first step you take when you need a stockbroker, a health-care provider, or a plumber? You ask people you know for recommendations - because you trust your friends to give you reliable information.
In today’s sophisticated marketplace comprised of educated, informed, sceptical consumers, CRM is the only way to sell. However, it’s important to stress that creating loyal relationships with customers can never compensate for weaknesses in other areas of your business. So before implementing CRM, check that your organisation’s infrastructure is sound: that the products or services you offer meet customer needs, that your sales and distribution channels are up to scratch.
customersAs a small business owner, you know that if you don’t provide superb service to your customer, you cannot grow your business. Your customers are your lifeblood: without them, you wouldn’t be here so you must nurture and care for each and every one of them. Right?
Yes. And no. On the yes side, there is no question that businesses today live or die by customer service. E-commerce has served to underscore the value of above-and-beyond service, with companies like Amazon setting such exceptional standards that it’s difficult for customers who’ve shopped there to accept anything less from other businesses.
On the no side of the scale, great customer service alone is not sufficient to retain customers and build business: to achieve these, service needs to be entwined with a commitment to customer relationship management (CRM).
One of the first and most difficult things you must accept when you embrace CRM is that all customers are not created equal, and therefore cannot be given the same level of attention. You must identify your most valuable customers, then assign your resources to servicing them and building strong relationships with them. This does not mean that you ignore, or dump, lower-value customers: it simply means that you channel finite resources into areas that provide maximum long-term return.
So What Is CRM?
Robert Wayland says in his book Customer Connections: “Customer relationships are assets that should be evaluated and managed as rigorously as any financial assets.”
CRM is simply a way of selling products or services by building individual relationships with each customer and each prospect, on a foundation of mutual trust, emotional support, privacy protection and tolerance for other relationships.
Relationship management is not flogging off product-line extensions, over-surveying customers, buying new customers with fabulous deals, discounts and lead-ins, irritating them with an endless stream of junk mail or telemarketing calls. CRM shifts the company focus away from being purely product-centred. “Get the order at any cost” morphs into “How can I help my customer?”
Through CRM, you encourage customers to continue purchasing from you in the future - without the old-fashioned ‘hard sell’. Perhaps even more importantly, you transform them into referral-generating advocates for your business. This is where the trust factor comes in. What’s the first step you take when you need a stockbroker, a health-care provider, or a plumber? You ask people you know for recommendations - because you trust your friends to give you reliable information.
In today’s sophisticated marketplace comprised of educated, informed, sceptical consumers, CRM is the only way to sell. However, it’s important to stress that creating loyal relationships with customers can never compensate for weaknesses in other areas of your business. So before implementing CRM, check that your organisation’s infrastructure is sound: that the products or services you offer meet customer needs, that your sales and distribution channels are up to scratch.
Keeping in Touch With Your Clients Is Key
Keep Your Customers Around with Better Customer Service for Your Freelance Business
Keeping in Touch With Your Clients Is Key
There are many things which business owners can do in order to boost their business. Perhaps one of the most important steps you should take in order to not only gain clients but to keep them is to exhibit top-notch client communication. Keeping in touch with your clients is key and the following will list a few reasons why this is so.
Notifies Your Clients That Their Business Needs Are Being Met
By keeping in touch with your clients on a continual basis you are letting them know that their current business needs are being met. Even though you may be in the middle of a project, keeping them abreast of this information gives them peace of mind in knowing that an upcoming deadline will be met in time.
Contact with Clients Is Beneficial Should Job Related Changes Be Needed
It is also a good idea to maintain contact with your clients as it keeps the line of communication open should any changes be needed to the job which you are completing for your customers. In addition, this will make the customer feel comfortable in knowing that they can contact you at any time they feel it is necessary to discuss changes with you.
Earns the Respect of Your Client
Good customer service skills such as those associated with constant client contact will earn you the respect of your client. A business which maintains contact with their clients will be one which is spoken favorably of amongst the masses. This is a good way to not only gain the respect of your client but potential new customers as well.
Always Offer Top Notch Service
No matter how nice of a business owner you are or how many incentives you offer your clients, if you fail to offer top-notch services it can be the downfall to your business relationship. Therefore, another way to build a strong relationship is to ensure that the business offerings are always first rate.
Inquire About Customer Comments
Lastly, you should inquire with your customers from time to time with regard to how your business is doing overall. Ask your clients if there is anything you should consider changing to make your business more favorable to their needs. This is another way to really build a good relationship with your clients and keep them coming back for more time and time again.
Know Your Clients by Name
One of the best ways for business owners to build a strong relationship with their clients is to know them by name and address them as such whenever they contact them. A business owner who knows their client by name will make the customer feel appreciated and give them their due recognition. This will show the client that they matter to the owner and are good customers overall. It is also a good idea for the employees of the business to familiarize themselves with the clients and acknowledge them by name as well since employees are an extension of the business owner and the business itself.
Make Conversation with Your Clients
Keeping in Touch With Your Clients Is Key
There are many things which business owners can do in order to boost their business. Perhaps one of the most important steps you should take in order to not only gain clients but to keep them is to exhibit top-notch client communication. Keeping in touch with your clients is key and the following will list a few reasons why this is so.
Notifies Your Clients That Their Business Needs Are Being Met
By keeping in touch with your clients on a continual basis you are letting them know that their current business needs are being met. Even though you may be in the middle of a project, keeping them abreast of this information gives them peace of mind in knowing that an upcoming deadline will be met in time.
Contact with Clients Is Beneficial Should Job Related Changes Be Needed
It is also a good idea to maintain contact with your clients as it keeps the line of communication open should any changes be needed to the job which you are completing for your customers. In addition, this will make the customer feel comfortable in knowing that they can contact you at any time they feel it is necessary to discuss changes with you.
Earns the Respect of Your Client
Good customer service skills such as those associated with constant client contact will earn you the respect of your client. A business which maintains contact with their clients will be one which is spoken favorably of amongst the masses. This is a good way to not only gain the respect of your client but potential new customers as well.
Always Offer Top Notch Service
No matter how nice of a business owner you are or how many incentives you offer your clients, if you fail to offer top-notch services it can be the downfall to your business relationship. Therefore, another way to build a strong relationship is to ensure that the business offerings are always first rate.
Inquire About Customer Comments
Lastly, you should inquire with your customers from time to time with regard to how your business is doing overall. Ask your clients if there is anything you should consider changing to make your business more favorable to their needs. This is another way to really build a good relationship with your clients and keep them coming back for more time and time again.
Know Your Clients by Name
One of the best ways for business owners to build a strong relationship with their clients is to know them by name and address them as such whenever they contact them. A business owner who knows their client by name will make the customer feel appreciated and give them their due recognition. This will show the client that they matter to the owner and are good customers overall. It is also a good idea for the employees of the business to familiarize themselves with the clients and acknowledge them by name as well since employees are an extension of the business owner and the business itself.
Make Conversation with Your Clients
How to Have a Godly Centered Dating Relationship
How to Have a Godly Centered Dating Relationship
Steps
Know the ideal match for you. Date someone that you would consider marrying. Choose a person that has a similar desire for God, one that will build you up in your faith. If you are already in a relationship, positively encourage one another in pursuing God. Help your boyfriend or girlfriend to keep God the focus.
Remember that God’s Love is the ultimate. Keep in mind that the love God has for you means you do not have to seek fulfillment in how anyone makes you feel (the weakness of human love). Realize that the most perfect love comes from God, and it is always yours. He will do much more to fill the love-space than a person ever could. Approach your dating relationship knowing that God likes you and loves you, and there is plenty room for wonders of love, marriage and building your own family, of course. (Christians: Always remember He sent His son, Jesus, to die for your sins.) Make sure you are strong in your loving relationship with God. This means knowing that He is always there to help you along the way. Trust Him. Make God the most important in your life. Make Him the love of your life.
Pray. Pray about your dating relationship. Give everything over to God. Let God know that you are asking His approval. Talk to God about the problems that arise. Thank Him for the opportunity to be in a relationship and the happy times you experience. You can also pray with your boyfriend or girlfriend. It is a good way to help each other out with whatever stresses life brings. By praying together, you are experiencing God together. I would be very careful in doing this, though. The time you spend in prayer with the other person may bring you closer to them, but not necessarily closer to God. It could make the focus more about you two building intimacy. I would suggest each of you seeking after God and then being careful in what you divulge with each other.
1. Talk about God. Make an effort to bring God into your conversations. Not only will it help in keeping God on your minds, you will also find out about each other’s beliefs. Talking about a spiritual subject changes normal conversation into one of eternal significance. Discussing God also allows you to build up each other’s knowledge and confidence.
2. Read the Bible. Keeping God’s words in your heart helps you to remember the love and promises He has for you. Try reading the Bible together. It is fun, spiritual and good for conversation. Different verses will help you along the way in your relationship.
3. Get involved with Church. Make sure your boyfriend or girlfriend and you are active in the body of Christ. You will feel good about sharing God’s love. He calls us to serve Him. Find a bible study. Love on people. Find a church where you can be involved together.
4. Be careful with physical affection. Hugs are great. God created physical affection to be good. But be careful in how much physical permission you give one another. A relationship can easily turn sinful if physical bonding occurs too quickly. Everyone is different. But if you feel guilty at all for actions, it may be good indication that you are going too far. Avoid physical actions that might cause lustful thoughts. Save sex for marriage. Talk about your physical actions with each other, making sure you are both comfortable and feeling great. Remember, you might have to explain actions to your future spouse if you do not marry the guy or girl you are currently dating.
5. Show Christ’s love to each other. Make sacrifices for each other. Watch a chick flick. Go to a basketball game. Do not judge. Be willing to serve one another. Caress your girlfriend’s hair or even massage your boyfriend’s feet. Put one another above yourselves. Place their needs above your own. Find how to show love to each other. Use the love God has shown you and bring it to your boyfriend or girlfriend.
6. Pursue the Fruits of the Spirit. Strive to maintain the traits of godliness. Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, meekness, etc. This will work to relieve the relationship of worldly troubles.
7. Have Fun and Praise God. Smile and know that God is with you. Enjoy the life that God has given the both of you. Whenever you get the chance, praise God for whatever He has poured into your life. Trust and know that God has your back. He wants what is best for the both of you.
8. Cherish your own personal God time. Make sure you spend time alone with God. You need moments of reading the Bible, journaling or praying just between you and God. Since God is your ultimate lover, it is good to have that alone time with Him.
9. Keep in mind the reality that God is real. While having a special someone can bring great happiness in this world, realizing the eternally wonderful nature of God’s love is something you do not want to miss. God is real. His love is real. God is love. Realize that God is working in your life right now. His forgiveness is real and His promises are real. Give the love God has given you to your boyfriend or girlfriend. God’s love is perfect. Let Christ’s love reign in your dating relationship. Let the love you have for each other be a banner to the world displaying God’s goodness.
Steps
Know the ideal match for you. Date someone that you would consider marrying. Choose a person that has a similar desire for God, one that will build you up in your faith. If you are already in a relationship, positively encourage one another in pursuing God. Help your boyfriend or girlfriend to keep God the focus.
Remember that God’s Love is the ultimate. Keep in mind that the love God has for you means you do not have to seek fulfillment in how anyone makes you feel (the weakness of human love). Realize that the most perfect love comes from God, and it is always yours. He will do much more to fill the love-space than a person ever could. Approach your dating relationship knowing that God likes you and loves you, and there is plenty room for wonders of love, marriage and building your own family, of course. (Christians: Always remember He sent His son, Jesus, to die for your sins.) Make sure you are strong in your loving relationship with God. This means knowing that He is always there to help you along the way. Trust Him. Make God the most important in your life. Make Him the love of your life.
Pray. Pray about your dating relationship. Give everything over to God. Let God know that you are asking His approval. Talk to God about the problems that arise. Thank Him for the opportunity to be in a relationship and the happy times you experience. You can also pray with your boyfriend or girlfriend. It is a good way to help each other out with whatever stresses life brings. By praying together, you are experiencing God together. I would be very careful in doing this, though. The time you spend in prayer with the other person may bring you closer to them, but not necessarily closer to God. It could make the focus more about you two building intimacy. I would suggest each of you seeking after God and then being careful in what you divulge with each other.
1. Talk about God. Make an effort to bring God into your conversations. Not only will it help in keeping God on your minds, you will also find out about each other’s beliefs. Talking about a spiritual subject changes normal conversation into one of eternal significance. Discussing God also allows you to build up each other’s knowledge and confidence.
2. Read the Bible. Keeping God’s words in your heart helps you to remember the love and promises He has for you. Try reading the Bible together. It is fun, spiritual and good for conversation. Different verses will help you along the way in your relationship.
3. Get involved with Church. Make sure your boyfriend or girlfriend and you are active in the body of Christ. You will feel good about sharing God’s love. He calls us to serve Him. Find a bible study. Love on people. Find a church where you can be involved together.
4. Be careful with physical affection. Hugs are great. God created physical affection to be good. But be careful in how much physical permission you give one another. A relationship can easily turn sinful if physical bonding occurs too quickly. Everyone is different. But if you feel guilty at all for actions, it may be good indication that you are going too far. Avoid physical actions that might cause lustful thoughts. Save sex for marriage. Talk about your physical actions with each other, making sure you are both comfortable and feeling great. Remember, you might have to explain actions to your future spouse if you do not marry the guy or girl you are currently dating.
5. Show Christ’s love to each other. Make sacrifices for each other. Watch a chick flick. Go to a basketball game. Do not judge. Be willing to serve one another. Caress your girlfriend’s hair or even massage your boyfriend’s feet. Put one another above yourselves. Place their needs above your own. Find how to show love to each other. Use the love God has shown you and bring it to your boyfriend or girlfriend.
6. Pursue the Fruits of the Spirit. Strive to maintain the traits of godliness. Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, meekness, etc. This will work to relieve the relationship of worldly troubles.
7. Have Fun and Praise God. Smile and know that God is with you. Enjoy the life that God has given the both of you. Whenever you get the chance, praise God for whatever He has poured into your life. Trust and know that God has your back. He wants what is best for the both of you.
8. Cherish your own personal God time. Make sure you spend time alone with God. You need moments of reading the Bible, journaling or praying just between you and God. Since God is your ultimate lover, it is good to have that alone time with Him.
9. Keep in mind the reality that God is real. While having a special someone can bring great happiness in this world, realizing the eternally wonderful nature of God’s love is something you do not want to miss. God is real. His love is real. God is love. Realize that God is working in your life right now. His forgiveness is real and His promises are real. Give the love God has given you to your boyfriend or girlfriend. God’s love is perfect. Let Christ’s love reign in your dating relationship. Let the love you have for each other be a banner to the world displaying God’s goodness.
5 Tips For Turning A Good Relationship Into A Great Relationship
5 Tips For Turning A Good Relationship Into A Great Relationship
1. Commit to telling the total truth.
A relationship involves three essential components. You, your partner and the truth. Every time you hold something back from your partner, a piece of the passion in your relationship dies.
2. Astound your partner with your generosity.
Relationships work best when you ask yourself what you can give to your partner, rather than working out what you can get.
3. Take responsibility for feeling deeply loved.
Accept that it's your job to educate your partner about what makes you feel most loved. Love your partner how they want to be loved, not how you want to be loved.
4. Make loving each other a priority.
At some point in the day, ideally last thing at night, take the time to tell your partner exactly what you loved most about having them in your life.
5. Walk away when you get nasty.
Most of us get a little nasty when we feel backed into a corner. Come up with a plan that allows either one of you to walk away from a row when you catch yourselves saying things you'll regret.
1. Commit to telling the total truth.
A relationship involves three essential components. You, your partner and the truth. Every time you hold something back from your partner, a piece of the passion in your relationship dies.
2. Astound your partner with your generosity.
Relationships work best when you ask yourself what you can give to your partner, rather than working out what you can get.
3. Take responsibility for feeling deeply loved.
Accept that it's your job to educate your partner about what makes you feel most loved. Love your partner how they want to be loved, not how you want to be loved.
4. Make loving each other a priority.
At some point in the day, ideally last thing at night, take the time to tell your partner exactly what you loved most about having them in your life.
5. Walk away when you get nasty.
Most of us get a little nasty when we feel backed into a corner. Come up with a plan that allows either one of you to walk away from a row when you catch yourselves saying things you'll regret.
When it comes to the journey of a relationship
When it comes to the journey of a relationship, most of us take leaps instead of logical steps. It is common in new relationships to follow your heart more than your mind. Though this is not a bad thing it can often blind us to the truth of who a person really is. We so often get caught up in how good they look we don't look at how ugly they can act. We pay so much attention to how good they treat us as they are trying to win us over. We never notice clues to their character.
That would be the first step for a good relationship. Paying attention from the beginning. Another step we all know is communication. Learn to communicate early so you won't be focusing on communication when things get rough. You will already have built a foundation on great communication so it will be easier to talk about issues when they do arise.
Don't exhaust all the romance. It's romantic period getting to know someone. As your relationship grows throw in some romantic gestures every once in awhile. No need to go overboard in the beginning. If it is spanned out the romance will seem to never die. That also helps to keep the relationship interesting and the two of you will have started a tradition together. Believe it or not a lot of couples don't continue to date and do things romantic together after the fire has dimmed and the kids have come. We discuss some great romantic ideas, even recipes, on our Relationship Rescue website.
Since you are thinking with your head as well as your heart you will be able to grab a sense on how trustworthy this person may be. Pay attention now so later you won't be saying to yourself "I never thought they would do this to me". Remember there are always clues into a persons character from the time you meet them. If you want to have a good relationship. Set yourself up from the beginning. Don't wait until things go sour and decide to ask what are the steps to a good relationship. We share wonderful discussions on steps to a good relationship as well as signs of a bad one, so please come join the discussion and learn more!
That would be the first step for a good relationship. Paying attention from the beginning. Another step we all know is communication. Learn to communicate early so you won't be focusing on communication when things get rough. You will already have built a foundation on great communication so it will be easier to talk about issues when they do arise.
Don't exhaust all the romance. It's romantic period getting to know someone. As your relationship grows throw in some romantic gestures every once in awhile. No need to go overboard in the beginning. If it is spanned out the romance will seem to never die. That also helps to keep the relationship interesting and the two of you will have started a tradition together. Believe it or not a lot of couples don't continue to date and do things romantic together after the fire has dimmed and the kids have come. We discuss some great romantic ideas, even recipes, on our Relationship Rescue website.
Since you are thinking with your head as well as your heart you will be able to grab a sense on how trustworthy this person may be. Pay attention now so later you won't be saying to yourself "I never thought they would do this to me". Remember there are always clues into a persons character from the time you meet them. If you want to have a good relationship. Set yourself up from the beginning. Don't wait until things go sour and decide to ask what are the steps to a good relationship. We share wonderful discussions on steps to a good relationship as well as signs of a bad one, so please come join the discussion and learn more!
The big problem with finding good relationship advice
The big problem with finding good relationship advice is that it is nearly all written by women for women. Men often ask themselves if they speak the same language as their girlfriend. They often get into trouble simply because they do not understand her and fail to react as she would like them to. You men must understand certain ground rules if you are to succeed with women.
When your girlfriend isn't talking to you, ask yourself what you have done to upset her. Most men stop talking when they have nothing further to say, but women use their silence as a punishment.
If she is in a difficult mood it is not always because of her periods, so don't always assume that they are annoyed because of this; it may be you who has upset them for some reason. So when things are difficult don't assume it is always her periods or you will likely have some trouble keeping a girlfriend
You have no doubt noticed that women love discussing their problems, but by this do not think that they are looking to you to arrange things for them. They are perfectly capable of managing themselves but they like talking, so let them talk and leave them to solve their own problems.
If you are seeking good relationship advice for men, be careful where you look. Don't go to her father to ask what is troubling as he will likely have no better idea than you. You will, however, leave him wondering what you have done to upset her as in his eyes it is you who has done something wrong and not the daughter he adores.
Women also have memories like an elephant and so don't be astonished if she remembers all the mistakes you have made over the last few months.
Communicate as much as you can with her and let her know how much you are grateful to her. Give her a hug from time to time without expecting anything else. Everybody likes to be appreciated and women particularly like to be appreciated without being expected to give you something in return.
Great Relationship Advice For Men
When you have a problem remember that you can discuss it with her as she may be able to help you solve it. If you don't and she knows about it she may distance herself emotionally as she may think you are thinking of leaving her or you are having an affair with someone else.
Long term relationships require a lot of attention and work from both the partners, but always take care where you seek good relationship advice for men.
When your girlfriend isn't talking to you, ask yourself what you have done to upset her. Most men stop talking when they have nothing further to say, but women use their silence as a punishment.
If she is in a difficult mood it is not always because of her periods, so don't always assume that they are annoyed because of this; it may be you who has upset them for some reason. So when things are difficult don't assume it is always her periods or you will likely have some trouble keeping a girlfriend
You have no doubt noticed that women love discussing their problems, but by this do not think that they are looking to you to arrange things for them. They are perfectly capable of managing themselves but they like talking, so let them talk and leave them to solve their own problems.
If you are seeking good relationship advice for men, be careful where you look. Don't go to her father to ask what is troubling as he will likely have no better idea than you. You will, however, leave him wondering what you have done to upset her as in his eyes it is you who has done something wrong and not the daughter he adores.
Women also have memories like an elephant and so don't be astonished if she remembers all the mistakes you have made over the last few months.
Communicate as much as you can with her and let her know how much you are grateful to her. Give her a hug from time to time without expecting anything else. Everybody likes to be appreciated and women particularly like to be appreciated without being expected to give you something in return.
Great Relationship Advice For Men
When you have a problem remember that you can discuss it with her as she may be able to help you solve it. If you don't and she knows about it she may distance herself emotionally as she may think you are thinking of leaving her or you are having an affair with someone else.
Long term relationships require a lot of attention and work from both the partners, but always take care where you seek good relationship advice for men.
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