If this gets back to your partner which it inevitably will, or even worse, in case you do it in front of them, this will reduce and possibly damage the trust in your relationship.
One of the quickest ways to reduce trust together with your partner is to badmouth them to others, i.e. friends, associates, co-workers, or, worse, to your parents or other members of your relatives.
You need to think of you and your husband or spouse as a team. You are working together to generate a lovely measure of survival for the both of you, your kids, and everybody related to the relatives.
Another version of this is failing to defend your partner when another criticizes them. For example, lets say your parents start to criticize your partner. You need to, at that point, stick up for your partner. To not do so is to start down a slippery slope. When you said I do you agreed to generate a team with that person, and you need to defend that person, even if its your parents giving them a bad rap. In case you don’t, it will start to drive a wedge between your partner and your parents.
So how do you work well with members of a team? Well, you need to be supportive and positive. This means to think about, think about, and communicate about that persons best qualities. You need to build them up and make them feel lovely about themselves.
This doesn’t mean to deceive them and tell them how great they are at something when they aren’t . And I m not speaking about fake self-esteem where you make someone feel great about themselves without any consideration of actual achievement. What I m saying is that you are supportive of your partner and make them feel lovely about the person they are and about the things that they are lovely at. Protect and defend them against assault.
And they will do the same for you. Thats a actual team.
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